🤯 Neurodivergence & TRUTH TELLERS in narcissistic families (SCAPEGOAT origin story)

After this video about scapegoats in narcissistic families    • From SCAPEGOAT to family CYCLE BREAKE...   went viral, I started noticing something interesting in the comments that reminded me of something I had mentioned in a totally different video about neurodivergent people    • Rabbi explains what it's like to be N...   and the stress of "masking" in order to conform to confounding social norms.

I had a lightbulb moment. Maybe the scapegoated truth tellers, in many cases at least, are just neurodivergent kids who can't keep up with the exhausting game of socially sanctioned "white lies" that neurotypical people seem to tell each other all day long! Of course, in the narcissistic family, where the charade of the narc parent's flawlessness must be maintained at all times, the ND's inability to play along is deemed particularly unforgivable.

It also occurred to me that whereas the ND mind will often speak uncomfortable truths in an innocent way without any intention of causing embarrassment, the narcissist speaks uncomfortable truths specifically for that effect and therefore cannot imagine that there is no malicious or cruel intent behind the ND's truth telling.

I think it's possible that many scapegoats were just ND kids who even ONE TIME were oblivious to a lie that they were supposed to tell and became instantly branded.

I don't speak about this in the video, but it also occurs to me that the ND person's struggles in life are a perfect "corroboration" for the narc parent's claims that the ND child is a rebel.

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