Are INFJs Aromantic?

It’s common for many INFJ personality types to reject traditional romantic gestures, and due to the fact that INFJ personality types also commonly exhibit numerous neurodivergent traits, we may question if our rejection of traditional romance is linked to neurodiversity. However, even though many INFJ personality types reject traditional romantic gestures, INFJ personality types can also be very romantic. The rejection of traditional romantic gestures has more to do with rejecting the mainstream cultural narrative of what romance is supposed to look like between two people, rather than the gestures themselves.

For INFJ personality types to feel attraction or any type of romantic feeling for someone else, an emotional bond must be in place first. Once an INFJ personality type feels a significant deep emotional bond with someone, then they may very well welcome romantic rituals in the relationship, and romantic gestures from that person. However, in order for the INFJ personality type to feel that the ritual or gesture is actually “romantic,” it must be personalized and thoughtful. The gesture must relate to them as an individual. It cannot be a generic gesture that could be made towards anyone. INFJ personality types are highly intuitive and will immediately pick up on the energy behind a romantic gesture, easily determining if it is a false or hollow gesture.

It is also common for INFJ personality types to struggle to form deep emotional bonds with others, so they may experience the feeling of being a late bloomer when it comes to romantic relationships. INFJ personality types are not attracted to very many people, and this might also contribute to their feeling of being different from the mainstream population in the area of romantic relationships.

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