Скачать или смотреть Healing Anxious Attachment: Why You Overthink, People-Please, and Still Feel Alone

Anxious attachment doesn’t always show up how you expect. It can look like being the high-functioning fixer, the one who’s calm on the outside but burning out inside. If you find yourself overthinking, constantly needing reassurance, or feeling like you're always the one doing the emotional work, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by Valerie Rubin, therapist and creator of the Freedom From Anxious Attachment Blueprint, to unpack what anxious attachment really is, how it forms, and how to begin healing at the root through nervous system regulation, somatic work, and inner child connection.

We talk about the patterns that keep us stuck in survival mode, why logic alone doesn’t bring relationship clarity, and the practical steps to feel more calm, confident, and secure in love.

🎧 What we explore in this episode:

What anxious attachment actually looks like (spoiler: not always anxious)
The connection between people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and early emotional neglect
Why your nervous system holds the key to healing relationship anxiety
How to stop outsourcing your safety and start creating secure love from the inside out
The difference between logic and nervous system safety in decision-making

This is a must-watch if you're navigating a relationship that feels one-sided, or you're ready to shift old patterns and finally feel peace in your partnerships.

🎧 Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to the Connection Podcast

00:48 Meet Valerie Rubin: Relationship and Anxiety Therapist

01:02 Understanding Attachment Theory

01:31 Deep Dive into Anxious Attachment Style

02:05 Valerie's Approach to Healing

02:51 Personal Experiences with Attachment Styles

07:39 Healing and Self-Soothing Techniques

08:41 The Role of Childhood in Attachment Styles

10:32 The Role of Trauma in Attachment

16:23 Navigating Relationships with Anxious Attachment

20:32 Healing Through Relationships

21:05 Valerie's Personal Journey

28:10 Overcoming Emotional Triggers and Setting Boundaries

30:20 Setting Boundaries and Self-Soothe

41:28 Final Thoughts

42:51 Conclusion and Where to Find Valerie

👇 Resources & Links

Learn more about Rise into Regulation™ — the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriage https://start.riseintoregulation.com/...
Follow me on Instagram:   / lauren_dry  
Follow Valerie on Instagram:   / healwithval  
Listen to Valerie’s podcast: The Anxiety Recovery Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/1UZDfyh...

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Big love,
Lauren X