I’m tired of self-help culture (Not everything is a limiting belief)

Today’s video is a deep-dive on the problem with self-help culture, and its habit of blaming people for their pain. Though of course taking responsibility for oneself is crucial, and pursuing one’s personal development is honorable and very worthwhile, the idea that one’s unhappiness is merely a result of one’s self-imposed limiting beliefs can be extremely hurtful. I’m personally very committed to the process of self-liberation, but even I know that disentangling oneself from one’s limiting beliefs is a long and complicated path that merits a great deal of patience, strength, resilience and more than anything else, self-compassion. Many self-help gurus speak of this process as though it was nothing more than a choice one must make, and the subtext is that anyone who doesn’t make this choice in some way deserves their misery. I believe that in our wonderful intent to grow in self-empowerment as a society, we started taking a little too much responsibility for ourselves, leading to a culture of hyper-individualism where we're each told that our pain is not only our sole responsibility, but entirely our fault. I disagree. Let’s talk about it.

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00:00:00 Intro
00:00:18 How self-help blames you for your pain
00:02:01 The deception of self-help culture & new age spirituality
00:05:26 Many self-help gurus haven’t healed their own wounds
00:06:47 Pursuing self-improvement to feel superior to others
00:09:15 Everyone is corruptible
00:10:46 No one chooses to limit themselves on purpose
00:13:50 Work on yourself, but have compassion