Stowe talks 40: Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?

Narcissism has become a popular buzzword. But despite the interest, there are many myths that undermine the complexity and destructive impact of this personality disorder.

We were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, one of the leading experts in the field of narcissism, to discuss how you can tell if you are in a relationship with a ‘real’ narcissist, and why knowing this is so important, particularly if you want to leave them.

00:00 Introductions
02:25 Why is it important to know that you are in a relationship with a ‘real’ narcissist?
03:05 Why are narcissist divorces so much tougher?
04:50 How do you work out if you are in a relationship with a narcissist?
05:30 Switching your thinking from the narcissist behaviour to the impact on you.
07:30 A checklist for whether you are in a relationship with a narcissist
17:54 What are the effects of being in a narcissistic relationship?
20:12 The narcissist behaving as a toddler
21:27 What is gaslighting, and how do you know if it is happening to you?
24:40 The terrifying drop of the narcissist mask
27:01 What do you need to consider when deciding if you should leave a narcissist?
27:30 What is the impact on your children?
34:05 How you and your lawyer should handle the legal side
43:11 The trauma of the family court
43:44 The use of open offers v without prejudice offers when divorcing a narcissist
50:30 What can people do next? Further resources to help.

Tune in for an episode that balances a deep insight into narcissism and the legal options available to you.

If you are in immediate danger from domestic abuse, call the police on 999. You can also access help and support from the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 or the Mankind Initiative support helpline: 01823 334 244.

Additional resources

You can catch up on Supriya’s previous podcasts below.

Divorcing or separating from a narcissist:    • Stowe talks 5: Divorcing or separatin...  
Parenting alongside a narcissist    • Stowe talks 23/24: Parenting alongsid...  
Rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse: https://bit.ly/422YtMJ

You buy Dr Supriya’s books on narcissism on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/autho...

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