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Actually being social at university! [---]

English is not my first language so coming to school in the US has its social oddities. However, I was eventually able to over come my social anxiety and has a somewhat fulfilling social life. These are some of the things I always remind myself when trying to be social.


✏ About me :
⋅ Asian & Bilingual (a little bit tri)
⋅ Improvement Enthusiast
⋅ CS major
⋅ 18 y/o INTJ


✏ Music I used:
Cruise - K!o:    • FREE For Profit Lo-fi Type Beat - Cruise |...  
Without you:    • Diego Gonzalez - You & I Official Instrume...  
Sunday Morning:    • (SOLD) GIVEON X DANIEL CAESAR X LAZY TYPE ...  
***[Outro] Every Time Around - Vanshire:    • Видео  


✏ Youtubers I follow! :
Kai Notebook :    / kainotebook  
Ali Abdaal :    / aliabdaal  
exurb1a:    / exurb1a  
Hamza :    / hamza97  


Transcript:
[ ] I was the anti-social kid all throughout high school.
[ ] So when I came to uni, I decided I was finally going to develop my social skills.
[ ] In this video, I’m going to share how you can go from a lee-sin one-trick on league of legends to an actual normal person.


[ ] So through this event I actually met a senior studying CS, which is my major.
[ ] And although that RSO is really for nerf enthusiasts, a topic I know literally nothing about.
[ ] I still went and met a lot of people!
[ ] But don’t be like me and realize too late that my CS project is literally due the same night as the event.


[ ] Let me take this time to tell you about the second thing I did to improve my social circle.
[ ] And that is taking the initiative.
[ ] I’ve been the passive type of person, so it was a pretty big step in becoming the one that invites others to do things.
[ ] But it really is a big change because everyone is waiting to be invited to do things.
[ ] And that’s the easy part of taking the initiative, which also means not being afraid of starting conversations with people you don’t know.
[ ] The number one most popular way, the proven truth, golden method of making friends in uni is… talk to the person next to you in class.
[ ] I know I know, where’s my nobel prize right.
[ ] But that is literally how everyone makes friends, and you can meet such a variety of people, from the crackhead that parties 5 days a week to the next nerd with the potential to be the next jeff bezos.
[ ] Yes, this means there will be times when you stay awake rembering how awkward it was when you accidentally started ranting about your passion for armadillos. But its not like your sleep schedule’s healthy, so it doesn’t really matter anyways.


[ ] The last thing I would tell my younger self is just to get out there and practice.
[ ] When I first started trying to make friends, I was probably the most awkward person you’ve ever met. So, I can tell you all about how I fixed up my social life and all the things I did, but the key is just practice.
[ ] I don’t know if you ever played video games but the way I think about social skills are exactly the same as leveling systems in games. Say, you’re at level 1, and that means you know when people ask how your day was, you can ask about theirs in return.
[ ] Then, the more conversations you have, the more experience you get towards this skill, and the better you get.
[ ] So maybe the next time that acquaintance ask how you’re doing, you can reply with more than just “good, how about you?”
[ ] And just some tips to finish off this video:
[ ] If you’re ever nervous, focus on the other person, instead of trying to calm your nerves: Social anxiety comes from being overly self conscious.
[ ] You don’t need fancy conversation starters, ask questions, ask for small favors. I have literally asked for people to watch my stuff at a cafe while I went to the bathroom.
[ ] And lastly, you will embarrass yourself and you will face rejection, don’t let that get to you. If you do, just tell me and I’ll come one-tap you in valorant so many times that you wish you went outside.