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Episode Overview

This episode tackles one of the most critical challenges in startup leadership: repairing damaged co-founder relationships. Ryan Vaughn, executive coach and founder of Inside Out Leadership, brings his experience as a 3x serial entrepreneur and coach to over 100 founders worth $10+ billion in equity value. Having navigated co-founder tensions in each of his three companies, Ryan shares his proven "Clearing Conversation Framework" - a simple but challenging 3-step process that eliminates relational debt and restores open communication between business partners.

Ryan Explains

What relational "cruft" is and why it inevitably builds up between co-founders over time
How withholding small grievances creates communication debt that destroys business performance
The "speaking inarguably" technique to present facts without triggering defensiveness
Why taking 100% responsibility is the key to unlocking change and preventing blame cycles
How to identify your role in creating dysfunction using the "adjunct professor" exercise
The complete 3-step Clearing Conversation Framework for rebuilding co-founder trust

Timestamps
00:53 - Introduction and audio setup discussion
01:46 - Hampton community background and revenue criteria
03:09 - Co-founder relationship challenges overview
05:51 - Matt's podcast evolution and format
07:14 - Ryan's multi-faceted co-founder experience
08:22 - Defining relational "cruft" and communication debt
10:02 - Marriage comparison and inevitable relationship buildup
12:00 - Three-step clearing conversation framework introduction
13:18 - Step 1: Observing what's true
15:36 - Speaking inarguably technique explained
16:10 - Emotional literacy for leaders discussion
17:33 - Step 2A: Taking 100% responsibility
20:19 - The adjunct professor thought experiment
21:08 - Ego resistance to taking responsibility
23:38 - Step 2B: Acknowledging impact on others
25:23 - Step 3: Making commitments for change
25:53 - Why no apology is required
28:33 - Framework frequency and maintenance
30:07 - Implementation success rates and outcomes
31:34 - Inside Out Leadership introduction and contact

Follow Ryan Vaughn:
Website: leadinsideout.io
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanhvaughn

About Ryan's Company
Inside Out Leadership is a boutique executive coaching firm staffed entirely by post-exit founders who have transitioned into coaching. Founded by Ryan Vaughn after scaling and exiting VNN (a media company), the firm specializes in helping founders transform their companies into their masterpieces while stepping fully into their lives. Ryan's unique background includes founding and serving as CEO of three companies over 15 years, with experience raising venture capital, scaling operations, and navigating complex co-founder dynamics. The firm focuses on the personal growth process of startup leadership, working with founders at all scales on both individual development and organizational transformation.

About How Do I?
The How Do I? Podcast gives you 60 minutes with industry experts who teach their expertise to eCommerce founders and business operators. Each episode centers on a single "How do I...?" question, providing actionable tactics you can implement immediately.

Host: Matt Putra, Founder & CEO of Eightx

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