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The narcissist devalues, humiliates, and denigrates their intimate partner — but why would someone sabotage their own relationship? In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin reveals the deeper, often unspoken psychological mechanisms behind this self-defeating behavior.

🧊 At the core of narcissistic dynamics lies the concept of the snapshot: the narcissist creates an internal, idealized image of you and demands that you conform to it — forever. When you deviate from that image, you threaten their grandiosity, trigger separation anxiety, and provoke aggression.

⚡ But this goes even deeper. Sam Vaknin explores how narcissists live in a state of inner deadness, a void that drives them to “zombify” their partners, dragging them into their emotional limbo. Through devaluation, they try to diminish your value, spirit, and independence, telling themselves “It’s not a big loss” to protect their fragile grandiose self.

🧠 Main Concepts Covered:
The snapshot and why the narcissist needs you frozen in time.
How grandiosity and control shape the narcissist’s reality.
The link between devaluation and abandonment anxiety.
The “walking dead” phenomenon — why they need to drag you into the void.
Why devaluation is both punishment and self-protection.

🎓 Sam Vaknin is the author of “Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited” and a professor of psychology. This excerpt from his official YouTube Channel    / @samvaknin   sheds light on the internal logic behind narcissistic cruelty and emotional control.

👉 Chapters (Suggested):
00:00 Intro — Why narcissists devalue you
01:50 The snapshot & idealization
05:20 Grandiosity and control
08:30 Separation anxiety explained
10:10 The walking dead inside the narcissist

📺 For more in-depth analysis, explore the full video on idealization, discard, and narcissistic rage with:
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