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I want to share a moment that caught me completely off guard.

Late last week I was lying on the couch with Logan asleep on my chest and I asked Alexa to play the Beatles. The first song that came on was Let It Be. I have heard that song a thousand times, but this time it hit differently. Not as a song about loss or endings, but as a reminder that maybe it is okay to loosen my grip a little. Not to let go of Heather, never that, but to let go of some of the distorted thinking that can come with ambiguous and anticipatory grief.

Being a caregiver changes how your brain works. It narrows your focus. Everything becomes about vigilance, protection, and holding on. Logan was a powerful reminder that love also pulls us forward, that joy still exists, and that my priorities may need a gentle reset.

I also spent some quiet time at the cottage, just me and Penny, enjoying the solitude and trying to get my head straight. That space made it clear to me that I may need to start working on a book there, slowly, honestly, and without pressure. Penny listened carefully and offered her usual excellent advice.

In this video I also talk about using ChatGPT as a tool to better understand what Heather may be experiencing inside her mind. It has helped me frame her condition in a way that feels clearer and more compassionate, and I genuinely recommend it to others who are struggling to understand what is happening to someone they love.

Most importantly, I used what I have learned to spend meaningful time with Heather. Touch, familiarity, tone, and presence continue to be the most powerful ways we connect. It is reassuring to feel that this approach is right for her and for where her brain is now.

This video is about love that does not disappear, about learning how to keep going, and about letting life reach you again, even when things are still hard.

You are not alone.