What To Do When People Misunderstand You

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Transcript:
Is it okay to be misunderstood?

In life, we can have good intentions and try our best to communicate, but we won't really know whether people are misunderstanding us or not.

This is why one of the most helpful practices for our happiness is to be okay with being misunderstood.

If we keep needing people to not misunderstand us, we'll always end up needing to explain a lot. We'll feel defensive or sorry for ourselves. Very likely, feelings of unfairness and resentment will surface because we feel so misunderstood.

We cannot control whether or not people understand our genuine intentions, we cannot control whether people see the 'real' us, we cannot control whether people judge us or laugh at us or if they think we're super awesome.

If we keep needing people to 'see us' and appreciate us, we'll be making decisions based on the need to be liked. Then, we'll either always be super paranoid or feel unsure all the time because we feel like we can't really be ourselves.  We'll feel the pressure of having to be more like what we think people want us to be.

Being okay with being misunderstood doesn't mean we should just be our worst self and everyone's just got to deal with it - it means we try our best without the need for the 'result' of people liking us or understanding us.

In practical terms, it means we stop living in a way that is trying to seek validation, praise and acceptance and we start living in a way that is about doing our best to be mindful, aware, kind and considerate.

We'll stop being easily triggered when people don't see our point or our good intentions. This helps us be less reactive, less sensitive, less defensive and less in our own mind thinking all sorts of thoughts.

Being okay with being misunderstood has a lot to do with self-acceptance, because it is only when we are not seeking external validation that we don't take it personally when people don't see us the way we want them to. This is truly one of the best ways to be happy, always.