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Casey Caston thought he was living the dream. College romance, beach walks, fancy dinners, a love story that felt like it was already framed on the wall. Then they got married… and on their wedding night, he slept on the couch. What followed was three years of fights so loud their neighbors could hear them, two people convinced the other person was the problem, and a relationship drifting toward divorce.

The turning point wasn’t a miracle. It was a mirror. Meygan went to therapy alone, got hit with a hard truth, and started changing herself first. She set boundaries. She changed the “rules of engagement.” She stopped the toxic tango mid-step. And Casey had to face the sentence most of us avoid until it’s too painful to dodge: I might be the unhealthy spouse here.

What makes this conversation bigger than marriage advice is the systemic insight underneath it. Casey lays out how high-performing people build intentional systems everywhere except where it matters most. Businesses get KPIs, meetings, and operating systems. Marriages get vibes and hope. Then life gets inconvenient, childhood pain surfaces, and couples slide from communication to conflict to combat, shredding trust along the way. Casey’s answer is simple, unsexy, and strangely hopeful: structure builds trust, and trust is what makes love safe.

What You’ll Learn:

Why “love is all you need” collapses under real life
The shift from boxing to team sport: “connection is the win”
Why trust, not love, is the foundation that holds everything else
The boundary move that de-escalates a fight without shutting down the truth
How a “code word” can stop you before conflict becomes combat
What a “weekly marriage business meeting” actually fixes
A practical way to define a “healthy marriage” without vague clichés
Why rebuilding doesn’t require perfection, it requires intention

This conversation matters right now because a lot of people are quietly living in the gap between their public competence and their private chaos. Casey names that gap without shaming anyone, and he gives language for something most couples feel but can’t explain: the moment you realize you’re not fighting your spouse, you’re fighting the unexamined systems you installed by accident.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Opening Hook
00:31 When Dating Ends and Real Life Starts
01:23 “I Slept on the Couch”
04:16 Childhood Pain Shows Up in Marriage
06:00 The Hollywood Myths That Break Couples
07:31 Boxing vs Team Sport
11:07 “Love Isn’t the Foundation. Trust.”
13:21 Intention vs Convenience
17:23 Irreconcilable Differences Are Normal
21:28 “Make a Better Marriage, Start With a Better You”
23:08 Boundaries and the New Rules of Engagement
26:47 The Code Word That Prevents Combat
32:07 The Weekly Marriage Business Meeting
36:37 A Vision to Protect Kids From Divorce Trauma
44:00 Code Word vs Safe Word (Yes, Different)




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