Ways to overcome sexual aversion - Dr. Sulata Shenoy

Sexual intimacy is very important between partners and in marriages. However we are finding that couples are unable to enjoy sexual relationships due to a number of reasons and some of them may be actively aversed to sexual contact. So how does this happen and what does one do? Because many couples don’t discuss their problems an seek help and may even continue years together and some are even resent to it thinking that it is inevitable, whereas a number of treatments as well as therapies are available and on needs to seek them. So first one needs to find out what are the reasons for sexual aversion. It could be physical, in which case a physical examination by a doctor, a gynecologist would be helpful to find out whether the person is capable of sexual intimacy or not. Most of the case it is ruled out. So one is left with the psychological aspects of sexual aversion. How does that develop? In many cases, it is the case of social conditioning. Right from childhood, many have been told that sex is a dirty word and it is something that healthy people don’t indulge in and we should never even think of it and we should never even think that it is never desirable and enjoyable. One who grows up with these misconceptions will find it very hard to enjoy marital bliss. One needs to be emotionally connected to one’s partner, one needs to find soul mate and then only it is possible to enjoy physical intimacy. If this is not the case, if a person is having resentment, if a person is harboring anger, if a person is housing frustration towards one’s partner, it is very often true that a person could have a relationship and a person will be very aversed to it. This could lead to anxiety, this could lead to a breakdown, of relationships and it would be very disastrous to both individuals. So one needs to trust, one needs to build rapport, one needs to be emotionally connected and on also needs to be in a state of relaxation and also look forward to intimacy without which the mind or the body, both without barriers in their way. So sexual aversion in many cases it is psychological, it is in the mind and it can be easily averted with a good psychologist a good sex therapist or a person who could tell your details and who could help. So those who seek professional help, do not shy away from it , even if it causes a little bit of embarrassment in seeking out the help.