Why Anxious Women Are ADDICTED To Avoidant Men

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Why Anxiously Attached Women Keep Falling for Emotionally Distant Partners. Why do anxiously attached women seem drawn to avoidant men, repeatedly experiencing heartbreak despite swearing it won't happen again? In this video, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, dives deep into the psychological and emotional dynamics that explain this addictive cycle. Drawing from years of coaching and therapeutic experience, Adam explores the reasons behind this attraction, covering key concepts like:

The thrill of the chase: Why unpredictability and emotional distance are irresistible to anxious women.
The illusion of control: How trying to "fix" an avoidant man provides a false sense of emotional safety.
Familiar patterns: How childhood experiences of inconsistent love and approval shape adult relationship dynamics.
Low self-esteem: Why anxiously attached women settle for less, believing they don't deserve better.
The hero complex: The unconscious desire to "save" emotionally unavailable men.
Emotional dependence: How avoidant partners create an addictive cycle of intermittent affection, leaving anxiously attached women stuck in toxic dynamics.
Codependency: Why anxious women tie their worth to being needed by their partner.
Adam also discusses how therapy can sometimes unintentionally deepen this cycle by reinforcing the anxious woman's fears or misrepresenting the avoidant partner's behavior. If you've struggled in relationships with avoidant men, this video will help you break free from the patterns that keep you stuck.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

Understand why you're drawn to avoidant men and how this attraction is rooted in deeper emotional needs.
Discover actionable steps to break the cycle and start attracting secure, healthy partners.
Learn the difference between ethical and manipulative avoidant men, and how to test if your partner is worth investing in.
🚨 Stay tuned for part two of the video, where Adam offers specific strategies to help you stop selecting avoidant partners and move towards healthier relationships.

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Chapters:
00:00:00 - Addicted to Avoidant Men
00:03:39 - Familiar Patterns and Anxious Attachment
00:07:19 - The Hero Complex & Emotional Dependence
00:10:47 - Understanding Anxious Attachment and Love Bombing
00:14:13 - Therapeutic Miscommunication and Relationship Dynamics
00:17:22 - The Impact of Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics
00:20:40 - Understanding Your Attachment Style
00:23:58 - Establishing Boundaries for Emotional Well-Being
00:27:20 - Building Connection Through Honesty
00:30:30 - Supporting Each Other in Motherhood