The Karpman Drama Triangle Destroys Relationships (Transactional Analysis)

In this video I explain how the Karpman Drama Triangle destroys relationships and how to escape it. I also explain how to escape the drama triangle and how to use Acery Choy’s Winner’s Triangle. The Drama Triangle is used for analysing games within the psychological approach known as Transactional analysis or TA. Karpman suggests that whenever people play a psychological game, they’re stepping into one of three roles: persecutor, rescuer or victim.

🔵 CHAPTERS

0:00 The Karpman Drama Triangle
0:38 The Persecutor
1:16 The Rescuer
1:39 The Victim
2:16 Discounting
2:34 The Drama Triangle Destroys Relationships
3:53 The Game Formula
5:45 How Do You Escape The Drama Triangle?
6:44 Acery Choy's Winner's Triangle
7:04 The Vulnerable Position
7:28 The Caring position
7:53 The Assertive Position

🔵 TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS

I personally recommend the following Transactional Analysis books:

☐ TA Today by Ian Stewart and Vann Jones. Please click on the link to buy from Amazon: https://amzn.to/3DoWrge
☐ Transactional Analysis 100 Key Points and Techniques by Mark Widdowson. Please click on the link to buy from Amazon: https://amzn.to/409yaER
☐ Transactional Analysis for Depression by Mark Widdowson. Please click on the link to buy from Amazon: https://amzn.to/3JhI15w

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🔵 PERSECUTOR, RESCUER AND VICTIM

A Persecutor is someone who puts other people down and belittles them. The stance of the persecutor is “It’s all your fault!” They criticise, blame, set strict limits, can be controlling, arrogant, angry and and generally unpleasant.

The Rescuer also offers help from a one up position. The rescuer believes “I have to help all these people because they’re not capable of helping themselves”. Rescuers work hard to help other people and often neglect their own needs. They can use guilt to keep their victims dependent and feel guilty themselves if they are not rescuing somebody.

The stance of the Victim is “poor me!” They behave from a one-down and not-ok position. Victims see themselves as victimised, oppressed, powerless, helpless and hopeless. They are passive and can deny any responsibility for their negative circumstances and deny having the ability to change their circumstances.

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🔵 ABOUT TERESA LEWIS

Teresa Lewis is the founder and Director of Lewis Psychology and a Senior Accredited psychotherapist with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP Snr. Accred). Qualified in 1995, Teresa has been providing counselling and psychotherapy treatment for nearly 30 years. Teresa holds a masters degree in counselling and psychotherapy and is a qualified EMDR Practitioner having completed training accredited with EMDR Europe. Teresa is also a qualified adult educator and an accredited Mindfulness teacher As a recognised expert in her field Teresa is frequently asked to conduct editorial reviews and endorse counselling and psychotherapy books for international publishing houses.

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