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Hi, it’s a beautiful evening out here in Redland in Bristol, and I wanna share with you how radical acceptance changed my life

From time to time, we’re all gonna find ourselves in a situation we don’t like. Where we’re gonna come across challenges. Some people are gonna be nasty to us. Things are gonna happen that we didn’t expect and we certainly didn’t want. Maybe the deal falls through. Maybe the WiFi doesn’t work at the moment. Or maybe the relationship ends. Maybe some other driver cuts us up on the road, or God forbid someone robs our house or something
We can always do things to make the chance of sticky situations less likely. We can put in an alarm system on our house. We can make effort to avoid so called toxic people. We can try and protect ourselves as much as possible and we can try to avoid potentially dangerous situations. However, we all know not everything always goes to plan. And no doubt, when bad things happen, it can feel stressful. Especially when it’s something really nasty, like, the loss of a loved one or a family member. It can be very, very painful. But, I wanna share something with you that’s really helped me. Something that’s helps me through the day to day challenges of life and, something that’s helped me through my darkest moments to be honest, and that is: Radical Acceptance.

So, what is, radical acceptance? It’s a process, where we practice internally accepting each and every situation we find ourselves in. It doesn’t mean, that we necessarily externally accept everything, like, it doesn’t mean that we let people walk all over us.

Of course, there are many situations that we might have to take action. Situations we might have to remove ourselves from, or people that we might have to say a stern “No” to. But, it’s the internal response to these situations that really matters. When we keep internally resisting everything we don’t like or we didn’t expect, we set up this a stress response. And that it’s that stress response that promotes the release of stress hormones like cortisol, which, when we have constant and continuous high levels of that leads to leads to all kinds of problems. Chronic stress can lead to weight gain, anxiety, sleep disorders, and even disease.

Then, there’s also the time it takes us to move from being really upset about a situation, to completely accepting it and moving on. I get it, we’re all human and certain things that happen are always gonna hurt. For example, when a long term relationship ends, it’s gonna hurt. I mean, believe me, I’ve been there.

However, practicing Radical Acceptance reduces the time it takes to move from a place where we’re really stressed about something, to a place where we’ve figured out what we can change about it, and what we can’t. We can just act on the facts on the situation. Where we’ve learned all the lessons we need to learn, and we’ve arrived at a place of being OK, a of being at peace again.

Practicing radical acceptance is avoiding a life where we internally react to every little thing we don’t like, the things people say and do and all the little inconveniences. It’s the difference between creating chronic stress, and living a life of peace and flow, even when not everything goes to plan.
And, it’s skill that requires practice like any other. It requires repetition until you get better and better at doing this, and as you do, you bring a greater sense of ease into your life.


So how do you start? You can start, like I did by noticing those little internal reactions to things that go seem to go wrong. Noticing that subtle response in the body that can sometimes feel like tension, or heat. And you can bring your focus back your breath and let the tension go.

You can repeat mantras to yourself like “It is what it is”, or “This too shall pass” is one that a lot of people like.

It comes with realizing that, yes, sometimes what that person said, perhaps wasn’t right. And sometimes the situation isn’t fair. But what isn’t fair to you, is needlessly suffering more than you have to, or needlessly stressing your body and mind over things you can’t always control.

Disclaimer: Advice provided without warranty. This is not medical or mental health advice. By watching and applying this advice you agree to take 100% responsibility for all consequences.