Debbie Allen, How Betrayal Trauma Affects Body Image, 11.7.24

In this one-time-only webinar, Debbie Allen and Danielle, a professional model who is also a betrayed partner, discuss how betrayal trauma impacts body image. Debbie also presents Jen Howie's "Five Cs, which are outlined below.

Jen Howie's five c's
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The 5 C’s: Conscious, Curious, Challenge, Compassion, Committed.
When put into practice day after day these will start to change your thinking.

The first one is Conscious: You can't fix what you are not aware of. It’s important to be aware of your critical spirit towards your body. What is the narrative that you are telling yourself

Second one is Curious: Be curious as to why you feel the way that you do. If you are being critical of yourself, you may want to ask yourself, of what benefit is this bringing me. Example it could give you a false understanding of why things are happening, but this narrative makes sense, so you are going to buy into it. Example this is why he left. It is a perceived benefit.

Third one is Challenge: Challenge your narrative and ask yourself. Is this really helping me. Is criticizing what you ate or how you look really helping you in the moment. Challenge your thinking and the words that you keep replaying beneficial in general and in this present moment.

Fourth one is Compassion: Compassion is a value that we can extend to others but more importantly to ourselves. Especially during the journey of healing from betrayal.

Last one is Committed: Being committed to cultivate resilience and embrace your body uniqueness.

Methodologies for the 5 Cs
Treat yourself like you would treat a friend. Often the things we say to ourselves we would never say to a friend.
Identify the thoughts about your body and then challenge them. Are these thoughts based on reality or based on the distorted thoughts about yourself.
Limit your comparisons in person and on social media. Remembering that often on social media people are edited
Focus on what your body can do. It’s strength, functionality, if you have given birth the amazing ability to create, birth and feed a human being.
Positive affirmations: It helps to counteract that negative self-talk. Repeat statements that boost your body positivity. Example: this is a body that loves going out in nature, this is a body that laughs with friends, this is a body that has birthed three children this is a body….
Say these positive affirmations every day, slow and steady
You no longer have to feel dis-empowered. You no longer have to feel small, invisibly, lesser than.

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