Chasing Unavailable Love is Self-Abandonment

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Every time you move towards unavailable people, you move further away from the real, authentic love that is waiting for you.

Chasing love is a form of self-abandonment.

In the space of seeking external validation forms an absence of self-love and care.

Imagine what you could be doing with all of the energy you're projecting outwards?
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What would you have to be with inside of yourself if you weren't distracted with this pattern?
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Where did you form the belief that the love you want exists in people who don't really see you?

Take a moment and get present with yourself.

Whatever has driven you to chase someone who doesn't share the same vision for a relationship with you is powerful.

Stop giving that power away. Take all of that energy and bring it home.

Love that only flows one way is not rooted in truth.

No, it's not possible they just don't see it yet.

There is nothing you can say or do to change them.

This game of cat and mouse is one giant distraction from your own healing.

Underneath this compulsion to seek externally, is a deep desire to feel safe, heard, seen, valued, loved, and respected.

Can you give that to yourself? Can you let go of the idea that this person is the solution to your problem? Release yourself of this cycle.

It only perpetuates an old story. And you don't have to live there any longer.
On the other side of this pattern is honest, authentic love that flows in both directions.

Slow down for a moment and tune in. What is it that your heart needs today? What is it that you need to do for your own self-care?.
We don't heal on our own, but we cannot heal when we're chasing the wrong things.

Seek connection and safety in a trusted friend or family member. Reach out and schedule a coaching or counselling session, join a support group, do some breath-work, go to yoga.
Find practices that nurture a new pattern in you.

You are so deeply lovable. Please don't abandon yourself.

There is an abundance of love to go around, and it's up to you to do the work to let that love in.

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