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You need to love yourself properly to love others in an ordered way. How can we understand St. Thomas Aquinas' insistence on us governing our passions from an IFS perspective in a way that loves our passionate parts? How can we be detached from worldly goods? Do saints get blended with their parts? Are there benefits to some kinds of blending with parts? How can we frame the Theology of the Body to resonate more with women's concerns? How can we consider both errors of commission vs. errors of omission in parts work? What about the importance of mercy, the centrality of love, the requirement of interior integration in for human formation through an Internal Family Systems lens, grounded in a Catholic understanding of the human person? Join Dr. Gerry Crete, Dr. Peter Martin, and Dr. Peter Malinoski take these questions and more in this episode with a live audience.

Check out these episodes for a great introduction to Internal Family Systems grounded in a Catholic anthropology:

   • 157 Overview of Internal Family Systems --...  
   • 158 Who is Your Inmost Self?  
   • 159 Who Are My Parts and Why Do They Battl...  
   • 98 Self-Love: What Catholics Need to Know  

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“IFS Basics for Catholic Formators” a free Zoom workshop on Tuesday, January 13, 2026 at from 1:00 PM to 2:30 PM Eastern, walking through Internal Family Systems for those Catholic therapists, coaches, spiritual directors, and others who accompany individuals in their personal formation. More info here: https://members.soulsandhearts.com/IF...

“Catholic Parts Work in Human Formation” for Catholic Formators will be on the evening of June 10, 2026 at 8:00 PM to 9:30 PM Eastern. https://members.soulsandhearts.com/Ca...

Formation for Formators retreat theme is “Authentic Being and Authentic Relating.” This retreat focuses on you finding and loving you in more of your parts, including parts you have not yet encountered – your exiles. For Catholic therapists, coaches, spiritual directors, priests, and others who accompany individuals in formation https://members.soulsandhearts.com/fo...

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Key moments.

6:45 You need to love yourself properly to love others in an ordered way
9:56 How can we understand St. Thomas Aquinas' insistence on us governing our passions from an IFS perspective in a way that loves our passionate parts?
19:17 How can we be detached from worldly goods? Did saints get blended with their parts?
24:17 Blending is on a continuum and a lot of good loving can still happen when we are blended or when we are not securely attached
28:00 How are parts are more than passions? Are there benefits to some kinds of blending with parts?
33:30 Blending as a loss of distinction between the part and innermost self. The distinctions are important so that we can have inner relationships
41:00 How can we frame the Theology of the Body to resonate more with women's concerns, especially women’s need for safety and exclusivity?
58:30 The need for hope for parts in making progress in chastity
1:08:28 Errors of commission vs. errors of omission in loving
1:11:45 The importance of mercy, the centrality of love, a requirement of interior integration
1:15:15 Individual souls as a bride of Christ
1:27:00 The importance of love, and specifically of mercy from a Catholic IFS perspective
1:28:30 Chastity as a virtue of integration
1:29:40 St. Thomas Aquinas: The way you love yourself as the template you have for loving others