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How to effectively manage a toddler "tantrum" is the subject of this session with Glenn Denny.

We discuss various aspects of toddler development, specifically focusing on two-year-olds and their reactions. Key topics include the importance of emotional validation, allowing toddlers to navigate their own feelings, and not rushing to intervene during meltdowns. There are highlights around the role of language development, using nonverbal communication, and offering choices to prevent power struggles.

Emphasis is placed on creating a trusting, supportive environment for toddlers and ensuring consistency in responses. Practical insights are drawn from Glenn Denny's recently published book, "Being Two" which is helpful for practitioners and parents.

#disregulation #bigfeelings

Key Moments
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2:13 - Two-year-olds and "temper tantrums".
2:36 - Two-year-olds as complex, like working with babies.
3:00 - Love for two-year-olds, mentioning the book Goes with Ducky.
3:17 - Introduction of Ducky, a character answering early years questions.
4:14 - Glenn Denny's book is comprehensive and easy to use for both practitioners and parents.
5:40 - Discussing brain development: Toddlers’ neurons firing up.
6:02 - “Temper tantrum” term questioned; focus on emotional overload.
7:59 - Intervening during meltdowns can worsen the situation; space is key.
10:01 - The importance of building trust so children feel safe expressing emotions.
20:06 - Identifying triggers for tantrums, but they can be unpredictable.
20:22 - Common triggers: excitement, tiredness, hunger, wanting space.
20:33 - Toddlers express emotions nonverbally (e.g. not wanting to play with others).
20:47 - Teaching toddlers language for their feelings (e.g. "leave me alone").
21:10 - Hand gestures like "no" help reinforce communication for toddlers.
21:31 - Toddlers take longer to process language than older children.
22:11 - Two-year-olds show a broad developmental range in language and potty training.
22:53 - Toddlers impact everyone around them, in both group and home settings.
23:04 - Two-year-olds are figuring out their place in the world, affecting their development.
24:06 - Discussing child ratios: 1:5 ratio in preschool, benefits of mixed-age settings.
24:41 - Older children help younger ones with language development.
25:59 - Trust toddlers to explore independently, guiding only when necessary.
28:04 - Staying nearby to offer support during activities like heuristic play.
33:17 - Celebrating toddlers’ independence, like learning to put on coats.
34:12 - Outdoor time allows toddlers to release energy and reduce pressure.
40:04 - Focus on understanding and improving children’s behaviour.
40:12 - Reference to Chapter 16 on guiding behaviour and positive discipline.
40:25 - Discomfort with the word "discipline," but recognising its importance.
41:08 - Validation of feelings should precede addressing behaviour.
41:22 - Acknowledging toddlers’ emotions as valid, regardless of their behaviour.
41:25 - Caution against assuming a child’s feelings without understanding their state.
42:07 - Encouraging children to recognise physical signs of emotion, like a racing heart.
42:49 - Caution about presuming too much about children’s feelings.
43:02 - Checking for understanding on cautious emotional presumption.
44:09 - Recommendation for learning about emotions through neuroscience-based webinars.
45:22 - Importance of letting toddlers experience emotions to connect with them.
46:07 - Allowing children to have their emotions without interference is essential.
46:49 - Consistency in emotional support strategies is important.
50:00 - Offering toddlers acceptable choices to avoid power struggles.
51:26 - Shift in language: “Put back where it belongs” instead of “tidy up.”