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Are you the one who always says yes? Who fixes everything, anticipates everyone’s needs, and quietly resents it later? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. But you may be dealing with something no one ever named for you.

In this week’s episode, I sit down with psychotherapist and bestselling author Terri Cole to talk about the invisible habits of high-functioning codependents, especially how they show up during midlife, perimenopause, and major life transitions.

Terri shares what high-functioning codependency actually is and why so many women don’t see it in themselves. We talk about how menopause can become a wake-up call for all the self-abandonment we've been conditioned to normalize, and why emotional burnout is so common in women who seem to be “doing it all.”

In this conversation, Terri helps us:
Recognize the caretaking patterns we learned in childhood
Understand why we feel so emotionally drained in midlife
Learn how to set boundaries without guilt or fear
Use practical scripts to protect our time, energy, and peace
Start honoring our own needs instead of pushing them aside

This is for every woman who’s been holding it all together — but is finally ready to stop abandoning herself to do it.


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Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction
01:50 – Feeling unfulfilled in your career
04:12 – Symptoms of perimenopause
06:31 – What do you get to not face, not feel, and not experience?
09:10 – What is a high-functioning codependent (HFC)?
11:37 – How fixing others becomes a form of control
14:32 – Anticipatory planning
17:15 – How Terri Cole set boundaries
20:00 – Tools to stop people-pleasing and start choosing yourself
22:55 – The myth of having no needs
26:20 – Why being an HFC negatively impacts intimacy
29:19 – Learn how to say no
33:05 – How to have difficult conversations with people
35:42 – How honest people become emotionally trustworthy
37:30 – HFCs and a victim mindset
41:46 – Two self consideration questions
44:18 – Red flags and dynamics to look out for while dating an HFC
47:00 – How do we consider ourselves first
48:53 – Our body language should support what we’re saying
51:01 – Terri’s #1 piece of advice

About Tamsen Fadal:
Tamsen is a journalist, best-selling author, and menopause advocate with over 4M followers. As host of The Tamsen Show Podcast, she’s become a powerful voice in the menopause conversation. She produced and executive produced PBS’s The M Factor: Shredding the Silence on Menopause, a groundbreaking documentary calling for change in how we approach women’s health. She’s also the author of How To Menopause, the ultimate guide to navigating midlife with confidence. From SXSW to Capitol Hill, Tamsen champions policies that break the stigma around menopause and empower women at work and beyond. After 30 years as a TV anchor, she now leads the charge in midlife health advocacy. Featured in Oprah Daily, The Today Show, NYT, and more.

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