"My Wife's Anger Is Ruining Our Marriage" | Paul Friedman

I understand where you're coming from that her anger is difficult to deal with. I mean anger is like a blanket thrown on a light bulb it's really hard to deal with it. It is, there's no question. So let's see what a therapist would say first because I'm going to debunk that. So therapist if you went in to see one or if you went to a marriage counselor, they would talk to your wife about anger management. They would point out the obvious that it's a very toxic thing in a marriage but it doesn't really approach this problem in a way that helps your marriage and isn't that what you want? You've probably gotten used to marriage being just marriage when it's supposed to be unbelievably happy. So let's start with that instead of let's just deal with this problem. Let's start with, what it is you really want out of marriage? Why settle? What do you want out of marriage? I could tell you when I started helping people with their marriages, I couldn't use the same standards that therapists use because it didn't make any sense to me which was get to the root of the problem, have the person who's presenting the problems, solve the problem. It doesn't deal with why we get married. We get married in order to be happier every single day of our lives, happier than the day before.


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