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Setting boundaries is one of the most magnetic things you can do. And having a lack of setting boundaries will guarantee that you might continue to get pushed around your own desires, your own wants, your own ways of being aren't respected.

And in this video, I promise you you will change or at least have a new perspective of this whole entire dynamic, know exactly how to heal it, how to have both internal and external boundaries so that it completely changes your life.

Now, the first thing, when it comes to boundaries to understand is that boundaries are simply our ability to say no to things that we don't wanna do and to have that respected
or to at least stand firm in our own level of groundedness.

A lot of times what happens when people go through a spiritual awakening or they're into the kind of content that you'd see on my channel is there's almost a feeling of empathy where you're able to feel other people's emotions, you're able to feel and know what other people are thinking.

And this happens as a form of childhood energy where maybe you were able to tune into your parents to see and know what they're feeling and thinking or your family.

Maybe you had to be the glue of your family. And what ends up happening is we develop this in a way ability to survive as kids and this ability to tune into other people and to feel
connected to other people.

And a lot of times what that is is that is our desire to feel safe, our desire to feel like we're
connected to other people, so that we can create a sense of safety. What ends up happening though is later on in life we find it very hard to set boundaries with people because we have trained people in a way that the way we respond is we will do anything for other people.

There are no boundaries that we set. And the thing with reality is it's very interesting, is that people are always responding to us based on what we are putting out.

So if we're putting out the energy and we're training people, that it is okay for them not to respect our boundaries or that they can talk us into things that we don't wanna do and move us from our own center of gravity and we let that be okay, then in their mind, it's okay, and we're allowing it.

There's this common thing that happens when we have trouble setting boundaries that we might blame and tell like other people are not respecting what I want or how I am or my me saying no or even if I am saying no.

And the thing to remember this, with this, to take our power back is that we're allowing it.
We're allowing it. And at first there could be a level of resentment. This happens a lot with boundary setting is people may resent other people because they don't actually project or say what they're thinking or feeling.

And for a long time, I had friends in my life that I felt like it was kind of a conditional relationship where if I wasn't acting or being a certain way then I wasn't maybe valuable.

And I would find it so hard to say no to friends. And because it was so hard for me to say no to friends they got used to me bending and wavering and then doing what they want.

And then I would resent them or I would resent myself for saying yes to things because then I'd feel like I'm not actually doing what I'm supposed to be doing. I'm not feeling safe in my own frame. And I build this resentment.

And then, this is why it's also common after you go through like a certain level of like starting to set boundaries. There's like this desire to say like, no. I will not do this in like
a very authoritative way because there's all this energy that's been pent up and built up.

But the thing to realize what this is is that if we wanna take our power back, we must become aware that the lack of boundaries was something that we've allowed and because we've allowed it and we've trained other people to respond to it.

in this way, we can now change that, we can now be in a different way. We can now choose the way our energy is and something my shadow work integration coach has taught me, I have a coach that I talk to almost every week, sometimes every other week.

And he's taught me a lot about energy and confidence and boundaries. And one of the things he always told me that took me a while to understand and is he said, boundaries are internal.

Boundaries are internal. And I was like, what do you mean by boundaries are internal? Well, if you have a good sense of healthy boundaries within you, you don't have to set external boundaries.

External boundaries is when you tell someone, hey that's not okay that you do that. No, I will not go do this, just so you know I'm not cool with this. That's external boundaries.