that's a red flag? but I do that.... [cc]

An exploration of the concept of ‘red flags’ — possible warning signs of bad actors.
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opening quote:
Stella: Once it was: See somebody, get excited, get married. Now it’s: Read a lot of books, fence with a lot of four-syllable words, psychoanalyse each other until you can’t tell the difference between a petting party and a civil service exam!
Jeff: Well that’s fine Stella. Now would you fix me a sandwich please?
[home nurse Stella lectures an incapacitated Jeff in Alfred Hitchcock’s Rear Window (1954)]
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0:00 the appeal of red flags
1:14 a troublesome concept
2:33 positive ‘love-bombing’?
3:11 the zabaglione effect
4:28 red flags vs red lights
5:44 assessing motives
6:26 case study: ‘Isak‘
6:48 style vs substance
7:52 a questionable benchmark
8:58 assessing a new relationship
9:49 mirroring
10:32 interrogation
10:55 overblown expressions of trust
11:32 love bombing
11:42 rush to commit
12:52 mood swings
13:19 silent treatments
13:51 dominance tests
14:25 ambivalence
14:48 unfit partners don’t need to be ‘monsters’
15:54 the revamp
17:14 summary
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