The TRUTH About Safewords, Aftercare & BDSM

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In today's video, we'll be discussing a recent series of viral tweets about the BDSM community. Why do safewords exist? Is BDSM connected to toxic sex culture? Is aftercare basically the honeymoon phase? Is doing scenes a way of trauma bonding? There's been a LOT of discussion around these topics. And while I don't think many of the original folks sharing their thoughts are really open to changing their minds, there is a conversation worth having here for those curious. I have done my best to censor the names of all involved, so PLEASE do not pester anyone involved in this on Twitter or on other social media.

00:00 - introduction
02:19 - the criminal tweets
03:32 - common stereotypes of BDSM
07:23 - what is a safeword?
12:02 - body language & check-ins
14:54 - communication errors
18:12 - language is confusing
19:49 - is this r* culture?
23:41 - what is aftercare?
24:59 - is aftercare... bad?
26:22 - everyday aftercare experiences
30:10 - IPV vs. aftercare
31:16 - leave this in the 80s
34:07 - shame and understanding
35:36 - final thoughts

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