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Dating in Los Angeles can feel impossible—traffic, distance, swipe fatigue, and mixed signals - and if you've already got dating anxiety - it can feel like a minefield.

In this video, West Hollywood therapist Oliver, LMFT unpacks how the Ten Rules of Anxiety secretly sabotage LA dating, from the Law of Inadequacy and Comparison Contract to Demand for Control and the Small-is-Safe Directive—plus practical ways to meet people and lower dating anxiety in Los Angeles.

00:00 – Introduction: Dating in Los Angeles & Anxiety
00:40 – Meet Oliver: Therapist Specializing in Relationships & Anxiety
01:10 – Why Dating in LA is Hard: Geography & Logistics
02:00 – The Rules of Anxiety in Dating
03:00 – The Law of Inadequacy: Feeling Outclassed
04:30 – The Comparison Contract: Comparing Yourself to Others
06:00 – Ambivalence in LA Dating: The Demand for Control
07:30 – The Worry Solution Paradox
09:00 – The Smallest Safe Directive: Avoidance & Anxiety
10:00 – Taking the Free Anxiety Quiz
10:30 – Solutions: Finding Community in LA

What you’ll learn (LA dating + anxiety):
• Why relationship anxiety flares in the Los Angeles dating scene (geography, traffic, status culture)
• The Law of Inadequacy: feeling “not good enough” next to actors/models/influencers
• The Comparison Contract: IMDB credits, follower counts, and confidence drain
• Ambivalence & Demand for Control: keeping options open, endless swiping, mixed signals
• The Worrier’s Solution Paradox: rumination vs. real problem-solving
• The Small-is-Safe Directive: avoiding dates to dodge ghosting—and how that backfires
• Tools to raise uncertainty tolerance, reduce reassurance-seeking, and date with intention


Get your custom insights:
• Take the free Rules of Anxiety Quiz (discover your anxiety archetype + tools) https://oliver-ngkegmdn.scoreapp.com
• Join the newsletter for weekly relationship + anxiety strategies when you take the quiz https://oliver-ngkegmdn.scoreapp.com