Why Silence Is Important After A Breakup

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Why Silence Is Important After A Breakup

Today were going to talk about why I believe silence is important after a break up. But what do I mean by silence? It depends on what you want to do after your break up, if you want to move on or if you want to try and get your ex back.

Here is the important thing, no matter what your situation is, the most important thing after a break up is that you follow something that I call the No Contact Rule. Now for those of you who do not know what a No Contact Rule is, it is a set amount of time where you and your ex don’t talk, no matter the circumstance. That means you won’t be reaching out to him to talk after the break up and if he reaches out to you, you simply ignore him until your No Contact is over.

But why is this time out so important to do after a break up?

I was curious to see how people react after a break up. I surveyed my audience, people said they got angry, frustrated, begged for their ex back, lost appetite the usual break up emotions. But one thing that came up consistently is that they couldn’t stop talking to their exes. Whether that’s their ex getting into a pattern of talking to them again, or them getting back into a pattern of talking to their exes again.

As you can see, silence isn’t an often-used strategy in these circumstances but why not?

Well I think it is important that I make a case why silence is important after a break up, silence can be used in many different ways. There is the No Contact Rule, or the Radio Silence Rule that my competitors use. There are five main reason that I suggest you follow the No Contact Rule.

Its best to view this as your advantages;

#1 – You appear more powerful
So here is what i find happens when someone engages into a conversation with an ex after a break up. People talk too much in a way to validate themselves. They want to go back to what they feel is comfortable making themselves look a fool. Then there are those who talk too much to rub things in their exes faces. They make themselves appear weak. Where someone who stays silent looks stronger and as if they are not as bothered about the break up.

#2 - Action vs Words
What is interesting about this No Contact Rule is where clients feel the need to tell their ex that they are going to not contact them for 30 days. We have found that it is more powerful and meaningful when you just go silent.

#3 – It gives you a chance to listen and observe
Breakups are essentially an agent of change. There are moments in life that can be the most stressful, moving house, losing your job and break ups. This is where you need to take this opportunity as making a change. If you are obsessed with what your ex is doing, you don’t realise what there is to improve your life. Often people go through one track mind to get their ex back. They don’t really sit back and observe the kind of person they are.

#4- It allows time for self-reflection
So, these two are kind of intertwined, where you sit back and listen it gives you some time to self-reflect on yourself. One thing that is clear, you are not going to get your ex back unless you are willing to give some time to yourself. Working on yourself enough to learn who you are as a person, who your ex is as a person and the things that you have done wrong in your relationship to make it fail.

#5 – Your ex will be the one seeking answers
This is the number one known advantage to using the No Contact Rule, your ex is going to be looking for answers. People who are in relationships get into patterns talking to the same person every day through texting or phone calls. Where a lot of people keep doing that after the break up. Where if you go into No Contact without warning they are going to want to reach out to you more to find out why you are not talking to them and they end up chasing you.

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