It's hard to say NO

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So why is it so hard to say no? And how can we learn to do it properly?
As someone who struggles with this a lot, I feel it’s hard because: 1) I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or upset them and 2) I HATE conflict. But as I was reading about this I learned that a lot of people say “yes” to many social things because they need connection, and worry that if they say no once they won’t get invited again.
I also recognize that many of us weren’t taught healthy boundaries or even healthy conflict. My family never fought.. So I never learned what it was really like to argue, talk things out, and be okay. It has taken me many years to understand that anger is okay, warranted, and a fight isn’t a bad thing. It’s just a chance for both people to talk about what’s going on, express their upset, and maybe even feel closer as a result.
And there are so many reasons we can struggle to say no.. insert first skit
We can even worry what saying “no” says about us, and saying yes can feel like the confident thing to do.

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