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How To Overcome Relationship Anxiety: Do delayed texts, quiet dinners, or “we need to talk” convos flip your stomach? In this video, Los Angeles psychotherapist Oliver, LMFT, shows the first step to overcoming relationship anxiety: no matter the surface behavior, the core trigger is uncertainty. You’ll discover which Relationship Anxiety Archetype you fit—Thinker, Detective, Seeker, Fortress, or Defender—and learn a simple framework to start breaking the cycle.

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What you’ll learn:
• The 5 relationship anxiety archetypes and how they show up:
  — Thinker (rumination & what-ifs)
  — Detective (surveillance, checking, interrogating)
  — Seeker (reassurance-seeking, over-texting, controlling)
  — Fortress (shutdown, withdrawal, conflict avoidance)
  — Defender (self-blame, harsh inner critic)
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• Why all paths lead to the same engine: intolerance of uncertainty (not just “partner problems”)
• How uncertainty hijacks your nervous system and fuels anxious attachment patterns
• The first step tool: map Trigger → Uncertainty element → Reaction/behavior → Impact → Choice, then try targeted alternatives
• How to tolerate delayed replies, quiet moments, and serious talks without spiraling
• Why chasing certainty (reassurance, checking, overthinking) backfires—and what to do instead



Get your custom tools:
• Take the free Relationship Anxiety Archetype Quiz (link below) to identify your pattern and get the matching worksheet and weekly tools.

Who this helps:
Anyone dealing with anxious attachment, reassurance seeking, rumination, jealousy, shutting down, or self-criticism—and partners who want a calmer, closer connection.

00:00 - Introduction: What is Relationship Anxiety?
00:14 - Common Scenarios That Trigger Anxiety
00:42 - The Five Relationship Anxiety Archetypes
01:05 - About the Presenter: Oliver, Psychotherapist
01:22 - Overview of the Five Archetypes
02:56 - How Anxiety and Uncertainty Are Linked
03:16 - The Universal Trigger: Uncertainty
03:55 - Evolutionary Roots of Anxiety
04:35 - Modern Relationship Risks and Anxiety
05:14 - Uncertainty in All Relationship Stages
06:06 - How We React to Uncertainty
06:36 - Deep Dive: The Detective Archetype
07:51 - Deep Dive: The Seeker Archetype
08:39 - Deep Dive: The Thinker Archetype
08:54 - Deep Dive: The Defender Archetype
09:39 - Deep Dive: The Fortress Archetype
11:32 - Why Removing Uncertainty Doesn’t Work
12:17 - Building Tolerance for Uncertainty
12:40 - The Relationship Anxiety Quiz & Free Tool

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