Nervous System Pattern - Fear of Rejection Leads to Failure to THRIVE in Relationships And Your Body

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Some nervous system patterns I talk about I've had personal experience with. Fear of rejection is not one of them. Perhaps this is because I got really comfortable with rejection from an early age, or because rejection felt more comfortable to me than not taking action. For whatever reason, I've not struggled with this particular pattern, but I have had intimate experience with it in my partnership with Stefan. He has all the classic signs and symptoms of this pattern in its many manifestations, and it has been a regular part of our conversation when we discuss our relationship and work towards more intimacy, connection, fewer triggers and more consciousness.

Fear of rejection becomes a nervous system pattern when our brains (nervous system) decide at a young age that the experience of rejection is so painful that it is preferable to hide, stay small and minimize risks whenever possible. After this fear becomes a pattern (or neural loop), your body will actually automate behaviors for you so you don't even have to think about rejection or feel the emotion of fear associated with it. For example, you might have the passing thought that someone in a coffee shop is cute or interesting to you, but your body will immediately recognize this as a potential scenario for rejection and jump into action, prompting you to think other thoughts or go pee or otherwise prompt you to NOT act on the impulse of attraction. Your mind might play a tape that sounds something like this: "No way, she's out of my league" or "He's too perfect, I'm going to mess this up." The story plays automatically, and what follows is the chemical cocktail designed to get you to SAFETY, stat. Fear kicks in, and your body practically decides for you that it will not be risking rejection today. No way.

When it comes to your relationship to your body, fear of rejection can LOOK LIKE taking half-hearted action towards a physical goal (maybe getting out of pain with fascia release), only to give up quickly. Maybe you don't even NOTICE that your actions were half-hearted. Maybe you don't even notice that you "gave it 100%" for 2 days and THEN just quit. You might realize a week later "oh my god, I was supposed to keep doing fasciae release. I forgot." But you're kind of over it by now, or on to the next possible "fix" for your pain...where you enact the SAME pattern.

The ULTIMATE rejection would be if your body rejected you. Because if your own body rejects you, you must be worthless right?

So you'll do whatever you have to do to avoid the pain of feeling rejected by anyone, but especially by your own body. Which is really to say - by yourself. Fear of rejection by others is really a mask, a projection of a deeper fear - that you've judged and sentenced yourself and determined you're unfit, unworthy, you'll never be good enough.

In the video I explore the idea that rejection is nothing more than information, or data. It's actually GREAT information you can use to learn and grow. It is inherently OBJECTIVE, regardless of the stories your ego might tell you. When someone "rejects" you, they are simply saying they don't feel what you feel, it's not a good fit, it's not the right timing...and more than likely they have their own patterns, but it's the meaning YOU give to this word rejection that determines how you feel and what you do next.