How NOT to Confuse Being Used with Being Loved

It's confusing. You see what you think are loving behaviors. Then, you start wondering, but give a narcissist the benefit of the doubt. Then, you're in a pattern where things have gone lop-sided, pear-shaped, and somewhat south before you realized that you've confused being used for being loved. SO IMPORTANT TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE! Listen in.

You SO want to believe it is love. I understand that, however, you also don't want to be taken in by someone who never intends to love you in any meaningful way, right? That's why this episode is essential to listen to...even if you don't really want to. Nobody WANTS to admit they are being emotionally abused, but you can't change what you can't--or won't--see, right?

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
t0 clear ways narcissists use you
See the distinctions between being love and being used
Importance of recognizing when you're being used
Hijackals® have uses for you, not love to give you

02:11 Narcissistic individuals seek attention and power.
03:25 Hijackals demand attention, future fake for control.
08:44 Healthy human: flexible, compromise, fair. Hijackal: sacrifice, dominance, self-centered.
12:57 Teaching: Hijackals exist; they're abusive.
14:42 Giving love or compassion, not an obligation.
17:19 Hijackals make it impossible to be right.
21:17 Relationship with Hijackal is lonely,
25:25 You are always second to everyone else.
28:36 Hijackals expect business as usual, disregarding illness.
34:28 Hijackals are relentless relationship power seekers.
35:15 Unending desire for more leads to worsened behavior.
41:18 Hope hooked; bitter pill to swallow.
42:38 Managing guilt and rumination during self-care.

* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.

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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.

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