“People Pleasing Is Manipulative”: A Boundary Setting Bootcamp With Michelle Elman

Michelle Elman is a woman with a psychology empire. Her qualifications speak for themselves: she’s a five-board accredited life coach, a Master Practitioner and a Master Hypnotherapist, plus she’s published four bestselling books. But these accolades are more than just a job for Michelle. They’re personal. She faced serious health challenges throughout her childhood, having to endure 15 surgeries, followed by periods of intense self-doubt and low body confidence due to her many scars.

Aged just 21, she began her campaign ‘Scarred not Scared’, advocating for body confidence, and sharing her story with the world. Now, she spends her days coaching others on the importance of self-love, boundaries and acceptance. I’m so excited to share her wisdom with you in this episode.

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CHAPTERS

0:00 - trailer
1:21 - introduction
2:35 - why a life coach has a life coach
3:52 - Michelle's childhood health struggles
5:41 - Why Michelle wanted to be a psychologist
7:47 - How a near-death experience changes your perspective
13:24 - How to use your memories in a positive way
16:21 - Why is self-criticism so endemic?
21:00 - How to turn around a bad body image day
23:36 - Why beauty standards are a distraction
26:45 - What went through Michelle's head when she thought she might die
27:40 - Why the world labels us with dating assumptions
30:51 - Why everyone is difficult to date
31:55 - The one thing everyone should do before they start dating
33:55 - Why you need to change your attitude towards dating
36:35 - You should do this if you're fed up of dating
39:20 - How to maintain strong self-worth whilst dating
40:45 - How to set life-changing dating boundaries
44:55 - Why people pleasing is manipulative
48:14 - Why women have been trained to communicate indirectly
52:10 - The simple phrase that changes the game with boundaries
54:45 - Why looking out for 'red flags' can be toxic
58:50 - "You can't babysit your own child!"
1:00:40 - The reason why people settle in relationships
1:02:11 - Being in a relationship will not fix your loneliness
1:02:50 - How you can stop settling
1:05:09 - Sending her first break-up text

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